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Even Fitness Coaches Need A Coach

It may surprise a lot of you to hear, but even great fitness coaches need their own coaches.  Why? 

Because no one can look at themselves objectively and see what is truly going on behind the closed veil of our minds.  We are our own worst enemy when it comes to dealing with problems regarding issues that we are truly passionate about to the point of going nowhere fast. 

Just look at this example of my pursuit of a better bench press.

I consider myself a very knowlegable and passionate strength coach but for the life of me I couldn’t get past my kryptonite THE BENCH PRESS.  I was stuck at a miserable 275 pound bench press, which is pretty descent for the average person, but when you consider yourself a top notch trainer you feel inadequate.  This sticking point plagued me for over 2 years.

Not only did it make me feel inadequate, but it also made me question my own training philosophy and beliefs.  I almost bought a very large Ford F150 to compensate for the issue.

But the longer I thought about it and the more adjustments I made to my program the less responsive my body came.  So gradually I just accepted the fact that this was the norm and that I just wasn’t going to get any stronger on the bench press.

Then I moved to Canada and met up with Curd Hos who helped me realize my potential and coached me to surpass my previous bench max to a new 315 pounds.  So what was different?  What changed?

The conversation went kind of like this…

“So Curd, would you train me to help increase my bench press strength?   I need someone to take control of my training so I’m not overdoing it.

“Okay, sounds good – what are you thinking?”

“I’m willing to pay for your training as I want to take it seriously and be committed to following your advice and programming. So whatdya think?”

“Sure, we’ll start benching on Friday nights.  Oh and I think to keep you focused we’re going to get you into a powerlifting meet.”

“Alright, let’s DO THIS!” I said hesitantly.  Even though deep down I knew this was what I needed to do.

So after a couple weeks of training my bench press started slowly building up and after 3 weeks I finally achieve my personal record of 315 –those three plates a side were one of the biggest triumphs I’ve ever achieved.  And I owe it all to my coach!


Everyone Needs A Coach or A Mentor

One of the most common pieces of advice that you’ll hear from nearly all types of successful people in this world is that the fastest way to success is to find a coach, mentor or role model that can help you achieve your goal much faster.

Have you heard this before?  Everyone from John Romaniello,Tony Robbins, Dave Tate, and countless other sport and strength coaches preach the same advice.

In essence, if we want to direct our lives, we must take control of our consistent actions. It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently.
Tony Robbins

Yet, most people don’t have a personal coach, mentor or whatever you want to call them.  In fact most people say they don’t need a coach.  They think that they can “do it on their own” and often aren’t willing to make that investment in themselves.

The truth is not having a good coach holds them back from having massive success in their lives.  It’s something that held me back for years, and if I could go back in time, I would have immediately found a coach at the start of my journey.  It would have saved me so much stress, time, and money in the long-run.  Thankfully I’ve learned my lessons and have had several coaches and mentors in my life.


Curd and I recorded this recent video on “Why You Need A Fitness Coach” and the many benefits having a coach.  I can say that having a coach has always been one of the greatest investments I’ve ever made in my life, and has as a result improved my life in multiple ways.  I wouldn’t have ever been able to get out of my bench press rut and attain the physique I have now without my mentors and coaches in my life.


Watch the video below on Why You Need A Fitness Coach:

(Click here to watch the video on YouTube)

In the video, we talk about how we’ve both helped one another get passed certain plateaus and overcome those obstacles in our own thinking and programming.  Having a life coach or mentor is simply the best way to achieve success without all the running around needlessly like a chicken with your head cut off.  And it can work for you too!


  Here Are 7 Reasons Why You Need A Coach


Having A Coach Makes You More Accountable.

This is one of the biggest reasons to hire a coach.  You become more accountable to follow through on whatever you’re procrastinating on or stopping yourself from doing.  We all place limits on ourselves and naturally as humans we are inherently lazy.

We all have beliefs and habits that can hold us back, preventing us from attaining those sought after fitness goals.

When you have a coach that is there guiding you through the process (notice I said guide not holding your hand) you have a much easier time fulfilling your true potential.

When you have a coach that can push your boundaries and surpass what you thought was possible, a breakthrough happens.  The way you look at yourself and your life is taken to another level.

Most of us inherently know what to do, we just choose not to act on it.  A coach is someone who gets you to do that which we know we should, we just don’ wanna!  So take some action, get out there under that heavy weight and hoist it up and down.

Now go and down that protein shake, because you’ve earned it.  Skip on the extra side of fries and cheesecake, because your coach will see that in your food log and put you to shame.

Accountability!  It works.  Even when mom, isn’t around to give you a guilt trip.


A Coach Saves You Time And Gets You Faster Results.

Time is the most scarce commodity that exists.  You can always make more money, but you can’t get more time.  And believe me, I’ve tried.  The stock options on time are never available.  Drat!

Yet, when we attempt to do things on our own we’re taking the long route and wasting that time away.  After all you’re the only one that can do the work, yes this is true; however the journey can be made much simpler by hiring someone to guide us through the process and separate the fact from fiction.

Think of going after a goal is like being stuck in the middle of the desert without a compass, water, food, or a convenient camel.  You know where you want to go, but how do you get there?

Sure you can stumble along on the endless waves of sand dunes trying to figure out a way towards paradise, but it’d be much easier just to hop on your SAT phone and call up a helicopter to come and rescue you to drop you right where you want to go.  And even if you have a map, sometimes it’s not the easiest route to take.

Hiring a coach is kinda like that.  You don’t have to know how to get to your destination; you just have to follow along the path.  Range Rover to the rescue!

Now here are some things to think about if you decide to go it alone through the desert.

-How much time would you save?

-What in the hell do camels eat?  No, seriously what the hell do camels eat?

-How much frustration, stress, and anxiety would you not have to go through because you already have a proven map?

-How much more enjoyable would the process be?

A good coach can give you the map because they’ve already been there before, therefore saving you a significant amount of time, effort and frustration, plus you’ll get to the end of your journey that much faster.


A Coach Saves You Money

When I first started training back in high school, I had no clue what I was doing.  I thought I did.  I was young and naïve just like the rest of my teenager crowd.

This lack of understanding left me at a disadvantage of having to go through the process of trial and error in order to figure out what really worked.

I essentially wasted a lot of time for nothing while spending too much money on supplements and wasting time doing things that really didn’t amount to anything in the gym.

When first attained my first mentor, I was in my second year of college and was actively learning as much as possible about training and nutrition.  And that was the first time I achieved that “Aha moment” and competed in a local bodybuilding show.

Pat Downing from Downing’s Gym in Corvallis is still at the top of my list as far as strength coaches go and it’s where I learned that not everything is as it appears in the books and the magazines.  It’s where I learned the true measure of knowledge, which is DOING things the right way.

Pat was able to coach me along the way and help me avoid the pitfalls of trying out everything out all at once and told me what I needed to do.  It was as simple as that.  He gave me ideas I never thought of before, and made me BELIEVE that I could do it.  As a result, I ended up being a much more effective coach and took 3rd place in my first bodybuilding show.

I can go on and on with so many other stories and experiences, but overall, I’ve SAVED thousands of dollars and far more than that in TIME by investing in a coach.  When people say, “I can’t afford a coach”, my answer always is, “How can you afford NOT to have one.”


A Good Coach Saves You Stress, Pain and Frustration

I’ve already somewhat mentioned above how frustrating it is to do things on your own.  Even having all the information at your fingertips on the internet is a daunting task.  Often too daunting, because what works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for another.  That’s the essence of being human.

From having experienced a lot in my years of training and military service I’ve seen thousands of people throwing away their bodies with this diet and that workout program, only to end up being the slave to the “rebound effect” when they can’t stick with the program and end up fatter and more out of shape than before.

Everyone often start with high hopes when they first start a new diet and workout program, but without having the ability to change the program around, keep things interesting and avoid “overthinking” everything, they fall off the wagon and revert back into their old habits.

Having a good coach around will help you avoid this problem and keep you motivated towards achieving your goals.

Why try to figure out what to do when you can have someone else come up with the plan for you?  And modify it appropriately for your own situation.


Having A Coach Allows Us To Do More, Think Less

We are often our own worst enemies when it comes to things we’re emotional about and when your goal is to lose weight, gain muscle or simply get in the best shape of your life it’s a daunting task.  By far the best success people have made once they’ve reached a plateau is to get a coach to have them figure out the why versus trying to Youtube your way to insanity.

Coaching simply works.


Because a good coach has an unbiased opinion.  They simply see the problem and the end result and can make up a plan based on my unique situation.  There’s really no thinking on your part that you have to do.

All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire.

Once we separate our own causes for action we can focus on the problem and get away from the poor habits, compulsions and desires that we try to control, but overcomplicate.

You don’t have to think about what to do, you just do it!


Having A Coach Gives You Insights Into Yourself

I’ve learned so much about myself throughout the years by having a coach or mentor.  Some of the most valuable things are the lessons and insights you get about yourself.  You’re always getting feedback and discovering more about yourself in the process.

With the hundreds of clients that I’ve coached over the years, there are always patterns or behaviors that I notice that they aren’t even aware of.  Sometimes it’s a theory or limiting belief that they keep telling themselves again and again, which is holding them back.  Like how fat is bad for you and you shouldn’t eat it or you’ll get fat.

A coach is able to point these things out and help you become aware of them, so that you can change them.  Often it’s the little things that make a massive difference.  There are some incredible transformations within people just by making small changes to their way of thinking or habits.


A Coach Gives You Self-Confidence

There are so many ways that we limit and hold ourselves back.  There’s things that we WANT to do, but often aren’t doing simply because we don’t believe in ourselves.  When someone else believes in you that’s a very powerful emotional connection.

You immediately begin to have a better level of self-confidence and develop a “can do attitude” versus “well-I-don’t-know”.  Think back to a time when you’re parents told you they were proud of you.

How did that make you feel?

Pretty awesome, right?  Wouldn’t it be awesome to have that kind of emotional and ego boost now and again.

Not believing in yourself is one of the first keys to FAILURE.  The only way to get over this obstacle is to talk it out with someone who can help you see the reality you hold dearly is nothing short of BS.  The truth is we’re all scared of the unknown and change.  If you let your fear consume you all you’re going to do is sit there and spin your wheels.


The Best Athletes In The World Have A Coach… So Why Wouldn’t You?

The best of the best have a coach.  Michael Jordan, the best basketball player of all time, had a coach.  Barack Obama has coaches and advisors in his life, although apparently they aren’t paid well.

The list goes on…Wayne Gretzky, Lance Armstrong, Oprah Winfrey, Donald Trump, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, Richard Branson, Tony Robbins, even Arnold Schwarzenegger had coaches to help him along the way to greatness.  The end state = successful people all have coaches.

Let me ask you a question, does Tiger Woods need a coach?  Does Michael Jordan need a coach?

Of course not!  But, by having a coach, they are able to push beyond their normal boundaries.  They are able to get MORE out of themselves than they ever could on their own.  Both Tiger Woods and Michael Jordan often talk about the coaches they’ve had and the influence they’ve had in their lives.


Success is a Tough Uphill Battle

The reality is very few people rarely make it on their own.  People that think “I can do it on my own” will very seldom achieve their success.  It’s a limiting belief – a story they tell themselves again and again, that prevents them from having success.

It’s the same thing when people say, “I can’t afford it.”  It’s such a bogus story!  Whenever someone says that they can’t afford something or don’t have the money, it’s RARELY a matter of money.

Think about it this way, it’s kind of like buying the things you need versus the things you want.  You may need some new snow tires for your car, but then again you may want a new snow mobile.  Hey, I live in Canada and this was the best analogy I could think of at the moment.  Anyway, what sort of purchase would you make?

The snow mobile would be a heck of a lot more fun than snow tires, but then again you need the snow tires to stay safe on the highway versus the snow mobile that’s simply for recreation.  But it’s LOADS more fun!

You buy the snowmobile!  Why?  Because you WANT it.  Not because you need it to survive.

Logically this makes virtually no sense, but we’re not logical creatures at heart.  Even though we may need something really, really badly it all boils down to what we want and desire.  And if you want to succeed in getting stronger, leaner and have a great body — get a coach.

No matter how many times you get the free online workouts from or buy the latest diet magazine or book you’re never going to get away from the fact that you’re still all by yourself and your afflicted by our human frailties.


But Coaching is Expensive

Yes, coaching is expensive.  But if you’re COMMITTED and DEDICATED to your own success you’ll find a way to pay for your coaching, because you can always make more money.  You can always find those spare loop holes of cash, most likely limiting your amounts of Star Bucks Frappuccinos you get every day (those aren’t helping your waist line either).

It always comes down to how committed you really are.  If you are committed to something, you will find the way to make it happen.  Think about all the little things that you buy every week, every day that can make a difference.

Do you really need another brand new iPhone with all the bells and whistles that has the same capabilities as the last?

Do you really need the BEST and shiniest new car?

Do you have to have the latest and greatest fashion designer jeans that cost $95 a pair?  Oh, and don’t stop at just one pair, get three…

Some of the things we have today are extravagant and indulgent and that’s fine.  But when you consider how you’re living and what your quality of life is now, do you ever stop to consider how you will feel in another couple of years or even decades later?

Sometimes we get so focused on living in the moment that we forget that we may not have what we should value most in life, which is our family, friends and our health.  For without these things nothing is important.


Are you committed yet?

 I know that this is a long-winded article with a video and everything, and if you’ve made it this far, I can tell that you’re clearly committed to having a better life.  If you weren’t, you wouldn’t be reading this!  It’s great that you’re reading this, but nothing changes until you take action.  I challenge you to take immediate action on applying what you learned in this article and video.  Find a coach immediately.  You won’t regret it.  It’ll be one of the best decisions you ever make in your life.

If you’re interested in hiring me as your coach, I am happy to speak to you further about it.  Strength and Fitness Coaching has always been a passion of mine and I’ve been fortunate to have worked with hundreds of men and women from around the world.  I currently have clients that I continue coaching for over a year now and have helped people get incredible results in their life.

You can click here to contact me about coaching.  But it doesn’t have to be me.  Find someone, ANYONE that you can help you get the results you want in your life.

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